This week BlogHer asked me “What are your favorite resources for increasing and sustaining happiness?” I want to say right away that the main post on BlogHer is SO worth the read this week– Five Steps to Lasting Joy. Read it. I may just have to add it to my favorite ways to sustaining happiness. It’s that good. I’ll be heading over there to comment. I hope you will too.
Increasing and sustaining happiness. Wow. Here are my go-to ways:
- The Bible. There’s a bible verse for every woe and an overarching message that brings happiness and peace.
- Spend time with the kids just talking to them or hanging out with them–not “parenting” them which can be a huge decrease in happiness when you are busy wrangling the daily stuff: homework, friends, school, behavior, dinner, chores, etc. Just spending that one on one time with them chatting about non mommy/child thing is a big fun thing to do. I like to do this as much as possible. (Yay for the Google Talk!)
- Pets! A minute or two with the prairie dogs and their ever constant antics is fun. They love me no matter what and are more than happy to let me pet them.
- Louise Hay. Her Daily Affirmations link is in my bookmarks toolbar so I remember to look at it daily. I also have her calendar in our bathroom. I like to put the affirmations in my status update for gtalk/aim just to remind me all day. (and hopefully make someone else smile.)
- Flirt with my partner. It doesn’t always get the reaction I’d like, but it is fun.
- When all else fails, time for a hair cut.
- I try to avoid ruminating on something over and over again. If I get really grouchy, confused, or hurt by an email, I sit on it at least overnight to keep from digging into anger and unhappiness. Usually that time gives me perspective and I don’t dig into a flinging match of hurt. It took me a long time to figure this out. As a professional online community moderator, I must have doled out “Don’t read tone into the message” on message boards advice a million times. Then I would get an email and I would “hear” a tone that made the words rearrange into things that really may not have been the intent. Stop reading tone. Read the words. It works. Really.
- A bit of music. I am not really a music listener outside the car–except on bad days. (or if reminded of a song by something I read) I pretty much have a bad day perk you up playlist.
- Bath. Shower. Bath. Shower. This actually is my first line of stress relief. My dry skin issues may attest to stress levels.
- Do something for someone else. Complimenting a woman on her shoes in the line at Starbucks, listening to a friend having a rough time, finding the perfect answer for a request at work–those ratchet up the happiness.
What are your ways of increasing and sustaining happiness? I always need more ideas. I get into a funk sometimes.
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